How to Change Your Life for the Better, Now and Forever. By Chris Brown, Writer and Content Manager, The Fit Father Project

Imagine for a moment that you find a golden lamp, rub it, and out pops a genie. The genie’s magical powers allow you to pause time and rewire your own brain. Suddenly, you have to ability to give yourself a healthy eating habit, add and remove words from your vocabulary, enhance your mathematical skills, or increase/decrease your libido.

What would change about your own personality?

The most ridiculous part of this exercise that we don’t need a magical genie to change the way we think about things.

man laying on couch watching tv change your life for the betterAs humans living in the modern world, we have a treasure trove of tools and information always available at our fingertips. We have the capability of transforming our own personality and skill-set to whatever we want.

Modern science has uncovered a tremendous amount of information about the our bodies. What scientists have discovered is that our bodies are nothing more than meat machines. The machine is built of the mind and the body, and they both require very specific nutritional needs to function properly. If these needs aren’t met, things start breaking down.

The Core of the Strategy is Having Positive Mindset

many laying in hammock change your life for the betterTo change your life for the better, and more importantly, for the long term, it is absolutely essential to build a good foundation of having a positive mindset. Negativity generates unexpected reactions and bad decisions. A positive personality attracts and inspires others to aid you with your cause. A positive personality entices you to be more productive and it helps you think more clearly.

A positive foundation is how we build long term personality changes that influence the external world. A positive mindset is the over-arching strategy. All techniques used to change your life for the better should revolve around a positive mindset.

Techniques to Develop a Positive Mindset

  • Love the morning – Start the day with things you really enjoy doing. Become a morning person and begin each day with a positive mindset. Don’t grumble; be happy that it’s morning.
  • Get plenty of sleep – Do whatever it takes to get in bed at a reasonable time. Cut your hobbies in half, cut tv in half, just make sure you’re getting enough sleep.
  • Eat healthy – Everything about your diet influences the mind; gut bacteria, blood sugar, blood pressure, and inflammation can destroy a positive attitude in the blink of an eye.
  • Be more active – Your body performs better when it’s fast, strong, and flexible. Working out regularly should be a part of everyone's schedule.
  • Build positivity into your personality – Develop certain styles, tones, and mantras that influence positivity into your life.

Small Changes, Big Moments to Change Your Life for the Better

man writing with pen change your life for the betterGrowth happens bit by bit, moment by moment. Every instance is a new opportunity to develop a positive mindset. Being cynical about your own life is never beneficial. Use each moment to grow as a man.

In the book What to Say When You Talk to Yourself, Helmstetter claims that 75 percent of our mental programming is negative. This has a tremendous effect on lives. Words control not just our own emotions, but the emotions of those around us. Our tone and subconsciousness queues develop a feedback loop with other people in the room. Our thoughts obviously impact our behavior, which can effect our tone and subconscious queues, even if we’re trying to control them.

Controlling your own thoughts takes practice. Meditation can help, but positive habits are built by consistent behavior. Try making these small changes:

  • Write things down – Forgetting things can tip the negative dominoes. Being more organized opens up wasted time.
  • Work on multiple projects every day – Always have tasks that need to be completed today, this week, in month from now, and years from now. Rotate through the tasks each day, appropriating the dedicated time for each task by prioritizing their importance.
  • Drop the bad habits – Get rid of the negative influences.
  • Find what works for you

Fitness is No Joke

mountain climbers on the side of a mountain change your life for the betterBeing fit has a tremendous impact on one’s life. A healthy diet provides the nutrients necessary for hormonal and chemical balances. A fit body not only works better, but it’s attractive to others. Being fit also help reduce illness and injuries, and it improves your chances of living a long life.

Working out releases endorphines, which can put us in a great mood. The sense of accomplishment doesn’t hurt either. There are several scientific studies that demonstrate the benefits. One 2012 study found that people who were physically active had more pleasant feelings than those who weren’t.

“Our results suggest that not only are there chronic benefits of physical activity, but there are discrete benefits as well. Doing more exercise than you typically do can give you a burst of pleasant-activated feelings. So today, if you want a boost, go do some moderate-to-vigorous intensity exercise.”

Confidence is a Bonus

Having a positive attitude and fit body opens the door to a secret weapon. Being strong, flexible, and attractive naturally increases one’s confidence. Being confident can help you accomplish anything.

Preparation builds success, and success builds confidence. Confidence builds ambition and progress. Over time one's self image can dramatically transform.

Grit – The Key to Endurance

man crawling in mud change your life for the betterGrit is the ability maintain composure and positivity in precarious situations. Part stubbornness, part toughness, and part determination, grit is what divides the exceptional from the average.

Grit is not something one can easily obtain by choice, but something earned through experience. Everyone must go through trials and tribulations. These defining moments in our lives are the only opportunities to develop grit.

You have to practice not giving up, to get better at not giving up.

Difficult physical experiences a great ways to develop one’s grit. Running a marathon, climbing a mountain, or just committing to tough workout regiment will all undoubtedly present a moment(s) where one can develop more grit. The moments right before giving in. When you start thinking about ways to get out. When you imagine the conversations you'll have explaining why you quit. To develop grip, you have to find a way to push through during those moments. Don't give up, keep moving forward.

In Closing

Taking control of your life is always within reach. Your own destiny really can be chosen, but only if you put in the effort to make the necessary changes.

To change your life for the better, build a positive mindset as a foundational strategy. Start the day out right, be more organized, and maintain a healthy body.

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