Mind Over Matter: How Fit Father Roberto Changed His Mindset To Change His Life

Written by: Dr. Anthony Balduzzi,

Men's Health Doctor & Founder
The Fit Father Project & Fit Mother Project

Written by: Dr. Anthony Balduzzi,

Men's Health Doctor & Founder
The Fit Father Project & Fit Mother Project

Mind Over Matter

Changing your mindset can cause a complete transformation in your life. ‘Mind over matter' isn't just some cliché.

By keeping your health and fitness on point, you get to enjoy and view life differently, achieve more things, and even contribute more to the world.

This was exactly the case for Fit Father Roberto!

Roberto is a 43-year-old husband and father of two. When he started the Fit Father Project, he merely wanted a quick and easy way to lose weight.

And he certainly achieved his goal — losing over 35 pounds!

What he didn’t see coming was that he was about to build a totally different way of life — healthier mentally and spiritually, more active for himself and his family, and more equipped to spread positive change to the world.

Listen to Roberto's Story on the Fit Father Project Podcast:

The Wrong Mindset and a Bad Knee

At just 18 years old, Roberto was already gaining a lot of weight. He broke his knee and stopped playing sports. He had no knowledge about nutrition and simply ate whatever he wanted.

I ballooned basically in one year, and from then on, I started doing diets. They give you a piece of paper, and you just follow it with no understanding.

Fast forward, and there were no results. Having already entered his 40s and still unable to lose weight, Roberto was looking for something significant and productive to do.

I was Googling if it’s possible to build muscle mass after 40. I thought the only answer was exogenous testosterone or steroids since your body’s not able to produce them. That’s how I bumped into Fit Father’s website. I’ve always wanted to have that body that you see on the screen. I started reading through the site, and it sounded good. This was like a message from God because I had been considering if I should quit my career in the corporation and study nutrition and personal training and dedicate my life first to fixing myself and then to help others.”

However, Roberto, in his own words, had the worst mindset back then. He just wanted a diet that would give him quick results. He only had short-term unsustainable goals, and at the back of his mind, he knew would have those cheat meals and go back to his old habits.

When he joined the program, he had a rough start. He did the shakes and loved them, but his stomach couldn’t handle them. Being from Spain, he and his family also had to visit Europe from time to time. It became harder for him to adjust and follow the program the right way.

However, I was in the group every day explaining all my mistakes. I was also reading more things and all those emails that come every day with knowledge. I was building myself up at the initial phase. I started at 214 pounds and lost approximately 10 pounds during the first month, which I was super happy bearing in mind that I was still getting my way through.”

Learn how changing your mindset can help you experience full transformation in life, and see how Roberto used mind over matter to achieve his goals!

Mind Over Matter

Roberto may have had a bumpy start with FF30X due to traveling and stomach problems. But, he started gaining momentum, especially with other Fit Fathers’ support.

If you did a drawing of me for the last 15 years, I would be like one of the prisoners of the 1800s with the big metal ball and chain on their ankle. That was my excessive weight and bad health that I was carrying. I started gaining control during months two and three, and I started to regain confidence in myself. Thanks to the Facebook group with all the support of the brothers.”

In fact, when Roberto was just starting out, he couldn’t do a single push-up. Six months into the program, he could do almost a thousand push-ups in one month! He also hated cardio but thought it was time to make a change.

I started doing StairMaster and the seven series. I did the assault air bike, which was pretty intense because I have a bad knee. I felt fantastic after doing it. I suffered while I did it, but I felt good. I thought I had zero cardio capacity, but I was able to do a 5k run with my daughter without having trained. At the end of the race, she said, ‘Daddy, you run faster than me.’ That was incredible.”

Roberto is also ecstatic and grateful that he’s now able to turn exercise into family time.

I started walking in the evening with my daughter, and that created a bond that I never had with her until now. In these walks, she explains to me all that is worrying her or what she’s doing in school. We never have a conversation like that when we’re just home, so that creates a beautiful experience.

He may have joined the program with the wrong mindset and short-term goals, but the Fit Father Project allowed him to become confident in himself again, first due to the weight loss and, later on, the physical strength. He started thinking about his family and, eventually, the rest of the world. It was all about mind over matter.

I’m a present father, so I spent time with my family, but I wasn’t an active present father. Now, I propose plans and do them together with my family. I need to be well with myself because if I’m not well with myself, I can’t deliver good things to the rest of the world.”

The motivation guide of the program was also life-changing for Roberto. It urged him to reflect on what he is, what he wants to be, and what legacy he wants to leave. That’s when he realized that he has already enjoyed meeting people, visiting the best restaurants, and trying the best wine. It was time to try new things.

For the rest of my life, I want something totally different, first because I need my body to stay in shape because I’m getting older. Second, I have to be a good example for my kids if I want to help prolong this generation after generation, and third, I have to be a better professional and a better leader. I can’t do all these by being a party guy.”

mind over matter

So what would Roberto say to someone looking to join the Fit Father Project?

The first thing is you’re gonna fail. It’s totally fine. Life is like that, right? It’s not perfect. However, try to be on the Facebook group every day, especially when you’re having a bad day or when you’re losing motivation, because we’re gonna be there to help you. Don’t disconnect because if you disconnect, we disconnect also mentally. Second, the nutrition guide is the most valuable tool. I only used it properly months after spending more time with it. Third, there is a video from Dr. A where he explains how to do batch cooking and preparation so you have all the meals of the week prep. That’s the most important thing. Finally, with the training, just enjoy the ride. The first one is gonna hurt. The second one is gonna hurt less. The third one will hurt more because you will increase your weight. That is so satisfying because you’re just gonna be building and building and building and comparing against yourself. This is not a race against Arnold Schwarzenegger or whatever. This is a race against you, and the good thing is that if you do it, it just goes straight up. It’s impossible not to go that route if you do it.

3 Key Takeaways From Roberto's Journey

Here are the three key lessons you can learn about mind over matter from Roberto’s life transformation.

Lesson 1: Find a Strong Support System

Roberto not only received support from his family but also from others in the program. The Brotherhood Facebook community was his source of strength and inspiration.

There was no judgment — just support, reassurance, and encouragement.

Surrounding yourself with the right people will help you strive to be better and be more confident in yourself.

You will also learn new things through their own stories of struggles and success. You’ll keep lifting each other up, and you’ll soon be supporting other people too.

Lesson 2: If You Want Change, Start With Yourself

If you want to bring change to the world, you should start with yourself. Roberto joined the program wanting a quick change in his body. However, his own journey to weight loss and physical strength has led him to bigger things.

He became a good example to his family in terms of health and fitness. He also now has the opportunity to help other brothers and become a better leader. He’s more spiritually connected as well.

Pursue the same journey to personal growth so you have more to share with others too.

Lesson 3: It’s Not a Race Against Others but Yourself

Do not compare yourself and your progress with other people.

You’re not competing with anyone else but yourself, so focus on your own growth and goal.

Embrace the challenges. Enjoy and learn from the journey. Things may not be easy, but it’ll all be worth it. You can still change your mindset, your health, and your way of life regardless of your age and previous habits.

What is FF30X?

FF30X is a simple, sustainable, and specific weight loss program that is designed especially for busy men over 40.

With short metabolic training workouts, an easy-to-follow meal plan, and an accountability team that is there for you at every step, FF30X can help you lose 30, 40, or even 50+ lbs — even if you’ve never picked up a weight in your life. 

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Dr. Anthony Balduzzi, NMD
Men's Health Doctor & Founder
The Fit Father Project & Fit Mother Project

Founder Fit Father Project, Founder Fit Mother Project

After watching his own Dad lose his health and pass away at the young age of 42, Dr. Balduzzi founded The Fit Father Project and Fit Mother Project to help busy dads and moms get and stay healthy for their families.

Dr. Anthony Balduzzi holds dual degrees in Psychology & Nutrition from the University of Pennsylvania, a Doctorate of Naturopathic Medicine, and is also a former national champion bodybuilder. He’s is most proud of the fact that he’s helped over 40,000 families in over 100 countries lose weight and get healthy for life.

*Please know that weight loss results and health changes/improvements vary from individual to individual; you may not achieve similar results. Always consult with your doctor before making health decisions. This is not medical advice – simply very well-researched info on changing your mindset and the concept of ‘mind over matter.'

Written by: Dr. Anthony Balduzzi,

Men's Health Doctor & Founder
The Fit Father Project & Fit Mother Project

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