Overcoming Excuses: How Fit Father Dave Fought — And Won — An Uphill Battle

Written by: Dr. Anthony Balduzzi,

Men's Health Doctor & Founder
The Fit Father Project & Fit Mother Project

Written by: Dr. Anthony Balduzzi,

Men's Health Doctor & Founder
The Fit Father Project & Fit Mother Project

overcoming excuses

We all love underdog stories — not because of the triumphs that come at the end, but because of the lessons we learn about beating the odds and overcoming excuses.

Fit Father Dave lost over 50 pounds and packed on muscle when he was in his 50s — but that’s only part of the story.

Dave did all of this while dealing with brain damage.

He was born with damage to the right side of his brain that has affected him his entire life, and as he went through life, he made a commitment to himself to defy the odds and not let the diagnosis define him. So he worked hard and worked out and stayed in shape and became successful in life.

But then his 40s hit, and as life, work, and family set in, Dave started to let himself go — like many of us often do. But, he was able to turn things around in his 50s despite tremendous adversity with both his neurologic conditions and the stagnation that he'd allowed himself to get into throughout his 40s.

There are so many excuses we can make in our lives not to do things. And Dave had every excuse that any man could have, but he found his higher purpose and his path to a better body, mind, and spirit. I can’t wait for you to hear all of his wisdom and inspiration!

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An Uphill Battle

As mentioned, Dave was born with right-sided brain damage, which has affected many aspects of his life, particularly with movements done on the right side of his body. Because of his condition, Dave grew up recognizing that he had a physical handicap. Nevertheless, he worked hard to stay athletic within what his limitations allowed. 

From high school to his collegiate years, Dave remained physically active despite his condition. After graduating from college, he continued indulging his passion for physical activity and not letting his brain damage get the better of him. This continued well into his 30s. 

Unfortunately, things changed when Dave hit his 40s. As with anyone his age, the pressures of work, fatherhood, and being a husband crept up and took a toll. Not to mention the brain damage! To attend to all of these aspects of his life, physical fitness had to take a backseat. Worse yet, his nutritional habits deteriorated with his physical activity levels during this time. 

According to him, he began falling off the wagon, replacing his passion for physical activity with frequent indulgences in food.

“And once life started to get in the way, my diet was awful.”

As a result, Dave put on a significant amount of weight — and it only got worse. He continued to consume excess sugar and stayed inactive throughout his 40s. His sleep had taken a turn for the worse, as well, adding to the stresses his body was already undergoing. 

As his weight crept to 221 pounds, his cardio-respiratory fitness suffered tremendously. He discovered how far his heart and lung health had deteriorated following an experience when he helped his daughter move out of her college dorm. 

The turning point was when we moved my younger daughter, who just graduated from college. We were moving her into her new apartment; the elevators were packed, and she was on the third floor. I said, well, we’ll just move her stuff up the back stairwell because that was close to her room. And after about two times up the steps, I was completely gassed. I had to sit down, and I thought to myself, this is really pathetic that I have let myself get to this point!

From that moment on, Dave knew he had to make significant lifestyle changes to get back on track. 

Watch Dave discuss living his life with no excuses, overcoming brain damage, and transforming his body!

Overcoming Excuses

Dave decided to take action that very same year he helped his daughter move. He found the keto diet and while it did produce results, Dave had a feeling that there was a better way. This prompted him to search for a more sustainable nutrition and fitness plan.

That's when he found the Fit Father Project — and the rest was history.

After being on the program for just a few months, Dave began noticing his energy levels increasing and his weight coming down. Although he struggled at first, he began to love the sustainable training program and the nutritional plan that came with it.

It’s more than the nutritional program and training that Dave attributes his success to. According to him, what kept him motivated, on track, and accountable was the development of his mission statement.

One of the things that I didn’t want to do was to write the mission statement. I was like,  ‘Man, this is corny.’ But once I tried that, I got my ‘why' back.

The mission statement led Dave to find his higher sense of purpose — one that went beyond numbers on a scale. According to him, recollecting the death of his father-in-law and seeing what his wife went through was the kick in the pants he needed. He recalled how hard it was for his wife and how big an emotional toll the death took on the family. Remembering this, Dave didn’t want to put his family through all that.

With a clear motivation, Dave dove into his workouts. Before the Fit Father Project, Dave was working out at his local Planet Fitness, performing the same movements. While his adherence to the same exercises yielded results, he plateaued after a few weeks.

However, with the variations found in the Fit Father Project, he found workouts challenging, effective, and — most importantly — fun. He also mentions how new movements help cultivate the learner’s attitude — something he thinks is crucial to fitness, health, and life.

To stay young, you have to continue to be a learner and continue to try new things. That’s one good thing about the Fit Father Project — you change the workouts and add variation.

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So what would Dave say to someone looking to join the Fit Father Project?

If you fall down, just get back up. You can't just stay down. You've gotta get back up, dust yourself off, and keep moving forward. The secret is consistency and consistency takes time. But if you can do that, you will see results and continue to learn things that will help you along the path. It's not all or nothing. You start where you are and then just try to get a little bit better every day. Focus on the progress not being perfect. And whatever life throws at you, get through it and live to do better the next day.

3 Key Takeaways From Dave's Journey

Here are the three key lessons you can learn about mind over matter from Dave’s life transformation.

Lesson 1: Obstacles Are Obstacles — Not Death Sentences

For Dave, a big part of overcoming excuses was recognizing that his condition wasn’t a death sentence. In fact, his condition became a significant source of motivation when he was growing up and playing sports. To this day, he continues to be at his peak physical, mental, and emotional condition for himself and his family despite his condition.

Lesson 2: Overcoming Excuses Is Easier When You Know Your “Why”

Dave associates his success with his mission statement. As he wrote his mission statement, he discovered that he needed to be the fittest version of himself for his family. Recognizing this, he found a greater sense of purpose and a larger sense of urgency in tackling his physical activity and nutrition.

Lesson 3: Consistency Is Key

Despite Dave’s dedication to his fitness project and self-improvement, he talked about times when he had the occasional indulgence in his favorite foods. He also mentioned how the COVID-19 lockdowns limited his ability to go to the gym. Nevertheless, he was always quick to get back on track, recognizing that setbacks are part of a long-term process. Consistency is what gets results.

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Dr. Anthony Balduzzi, NMD
Men's Health Doctor & Founder
The Fit Father Project & Fit Mother Project

Founder Fit Father Project, Founder Fit Mother Project

After watching his own Dad lose his health and pass away at the young age of 42, Dr. Balduzzi founded The Fit Father Project and Fit Mother Project to help busy dads and moms get and stay healthy for their families.

Dr. Anthony Balduzzi holds dual degrees in Psychology & Nutrition from the University of Pennsylvania, a Doctorate of Naturopathic Medicine, and is also a former national champion bodybuilder. He’s is most proud of the fact that he’s helped over 40,000 families in over 100 countries lose weight and get healthy for life.

*Please know that weight loss results and health changes/improvements vary from individual to individual; you may not achieve similar results. Always consult with your doctor before making health decisions. This is not medical advice – simply very well-researched info on overcoming excuses.

Written by: Dr. Anthony Balduzzi,

Men's Health Doctor & Founder
The Fit Father Project & Fit Mother Project

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